He who loves transgression loves strife, And he who exalts his gate seeks destruction. (Proverbs 17:19)
Nothing can get us into more trouble than our mouths. Running the mouth before engaging the brain has brought the demise of many a wordy fool. Those who love to contend and joust with their words inevitably bring destruction. We are to give an apology not a debate. 1 Peter 3:15 instructs, "But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts, and always be ready to give a defense (apology) to everyone who asks you a reason for the hope that is in you, with meekness and fear." The key is found in the phrase, "With meekness and fear." An apology is not being sorry for what you are saying; on the contrary it is speaking the truth boldly yet with an attitude of humility. This kind of a defense cannot be easily defeated. Therefore let us not be found haughty in word, but let us be found peaceful. Remember, "A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."